About Dawn

Dawn Spann is currently a breakup coach and founder of I.B.G. coaching in Westchester New York. Dawn helps women move on and get over their ex with dignity and grace. Dawn is also a licensed social worker. She earned a Master’s Degree in Social Work from NYU in 2004. Dawn launched her coaching business in 2019 after completing life coach training at JRNY, co-founded by relationship coach John Kim.

Before coaching, Dawn worked as a family therapist, a sex educator, and a manager in the healthcare system. Dawn started coaching women after breakup several years after struggling with her breakup.

Her goal is to help women navigate life after loss, and rediscover their authentic selves, with a focus on creating and maintaining healthy relationships.

Dawn can be found on Instagram at I.B.G._Coaching and can be reached at moveon@breakupcoachdawn.com

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About Ellen Elizabeth

My name is Ellen Elizabeth, and I am a recovery advocate and infertility warrior who uses my skills as an author, coach, and sober mother of twins to represent women struggling with feelings of shame and inadequacy. These mothers feel powerless to quit drinking or unable to bring a child into the world. Through radical honesty and recovery principles, I inspire moms and their partners in all forms to define who they want to be and transform their demons into dreams.

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About Aeina

Aeina P is a Certified Master Practitioner from The American Board of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (ABNLP), a Certified Master Timeline Therapist, and a Certified Master Coach of NLP.

Aeina helps individuals heal from past trauma, and enriches their personal growth so they can develop happier and healthier relationships. She has been coaching and conducting one on one sessions for a year. Her client sessions are a rollercoaster journey of realizations, self-reflections, interventions, and simulations and have helped many of them grow, connect and celebrate breakthroughs.

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About Tracy

Tracy May is a Love and Relationship Coach who specializes in Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma. A foremost expert in toxic love recovery, she overcame adversity in a childhood full of trauma and abuse at the hands of her alcoholic mother and abusive, alcoholic stepfather while her biological father abandoned her at 3 years of age. She has been in the trenches of 3 abusive relationships as an adult. During her last relationship which lasted over 20 years, she started her healing journey 3 years before the end, broke up with him, and continued on her own, with a support system that helped her during these dark times.

In addition to Tracy’s life experiences, she uses her certifications as a Certified Inner Bonding Facilitator, a Peace Process Coach, and a Core 100 Coach to help women all over the world finally have the relationship and life they dream of. She is a Success125 Most Impactful Leader Nominee in 2022, a #1 international best-selling author, and an Executive Contributor to Brainz Magazine.She empowers women who feel broken, desperate, and hopeless in their toxic relationships to feel lovable, inspired, and confident and to go from barely surviving to thriving to designing the life they dream of. She inspires women to re-discover their true worth and to break free from the chains of toxic love, to stop accepting breadcrumbs of love so they can feel free to be themselves and have the relationship they’ve always craved.She helps women rise from the ashes of toxic love every day to have joyful relationships full of true love through one-on-one and group Toxic Love Recovery coaching programs. Coaching changed her life forever, and she knows it can change yours, too.When Tracy isn’t coaching you can find her soaking up the sun at home or on a beach getaway, horseback riding, golfing, and relishing time with her 2 children, 5 grandkids, and a great-granddaughter.Tracy fiercely believes in you and her loving, warm, and compassionate nature shines through while she supports you in conquering the entanglement of abuse.

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Be sure to check out her website, join her Facebook Group and sign up for your complimentary “Heal Your Heart Breakthrough Session” so you can uncover your next steps to come out of the fog and stop dancing with dysfunction.

15 Ways to go from Barely Surviving to Thriving and heal your mind, body, and soul from Narcissistic Abuse Guide https://fiercelyempowered.com/self-care

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1. Commitment to yourself

I am committed to me over the convenience to stay the same

2. Focus on yourself and your self-care

* meditate,

* journal,

* affirm,

* visualize,

* have fun,

* give yourself time to grieve the relationship and the dream of the relationship,

* exercise,

* eat right for yourself,

* feel your feelings, positive and negative, happy and sad,

* stay hydrated,

* go out for ice cream

* ride a bike,

* read a book for self-help and also for fun,

* listen to music that you love,

* celebrate your small wins,

* volunteer.

* List 3 things you’re grateful for every day when you wake up.

* List 3 things you have accomplished every day at the end of the day.

3. Boundaries

* Block the person you left, everywhere;

* Block mutual friends,

* Block his/her family even though you may be close to them

* Blocking them will give you the space to heal.

* Protect yourself and create peace.

* Think of 2 or 3 boundaries that you are willing to set.

* Think of 2 or 3 people you need to set boundaries with.

Boundaries are an active act of love for yourself and for the other people.

4. Have values

What are you willing to tolerate and not tolerate anymore?List 2 or 3 values that are deal-breakers

Bonus 5. Set your support system

We are the product of the 5 people we hang out with the most.

Choose your support system with healthy friends and family.

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About Melissa

I created Silk Mountain to help leaders develop and maintain positive, sustainable company cultures to attract, engage, and retain top talent. My services have evolved over time to meet the needs of the leaders I work with to include executive coaching, leadership development, and meeting/workshop facilitation, as well as professional speaking.

With over 20 years of senior HR leadership experience, I am well equipped to help you take your own leadership to the next level, using the PQ (Positive Intelligence) assessment as a springboard. 

I can do the same with your leadership team.

I worked directly with Kim Chestney, best-selling author of Radical Intuition, to earn my Professional Intuition Certificate. As an intuitive myself, coaching me is a bit different as I show you exactly how to tap into and use your own intuition to drive growth and profitability in your business through better decision-making, gaining new insights, and increased innovation. (This does not get you off the hook for doing your homework and using your critical thinking skills. Sorry about that!) I’m also a contributing author to The Everyday Woman’s Guide to Doing What You Love. My chapter is titled “Your Intuition Is Your Superpower”.

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Melissa Porterfield, Founder, and CEO of Silk Mountain

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Melissa was born in Spain and lived there until the age of 4. Her father was in the military, and when she was 5 years old, her family moved back to the US, and her parents divorced. Her father immediately remarried a verbally and emotionally abusive woman who didn’t want Melissa around as a kid. Her father was passive about that. Melissa carried a lot of early childhood trauma from these experiences.

At 20 years old, Melissa married an alcoholic and gambling addict, who was a lot like her stepmother in the way he treated her. It felt familiar to her, as she didn’t start her healing journey at that time. She stayed with him for 5 years. This man was in the military, like her father, and he got an order for Germany. She just graduated from college, had a 3-year-old girl, and decided to move to Houston instead of Germany because she definitely preferred living out of the abuse of her now ex-husband rather than in Europe where she always wanted to live, but with him whom she didn’t want to be around anymore. She got a job as a teacher. This was the only way she could think of to safely break up the relationship.

You would think she would learn from that first failed marriage… not so much (in her own words). She remarried a cookie-cutter copy of her first husband. With this second traumatic experience in a marriage, she started to do the inner work and heal, even though there was still the early childhood trauma that was playing out in her adult life.

She basically spent her entire life chronic

The reason why early childhood trauma is so bad is that the prefrontal cortex has not fully developed yet, and takes these first years of life experience as the reality to build on their entire life, even though it may be all wrong and not serve a good purpose at all.

The majority of the traumas that we can experience relate more to the way we feel about the event and the meaning we attach to it rather than the event itself as bad as it can be.

Melissa believes that it takes a professional to help you release the trauma out of your body and your cellular memories before it piles up too much and completely messes up with your life at a subconscious level.

EMDR - Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing therapy (EMDR) is a unique, empirically validated approach that is recommended by the World Health Organization as a "first-line treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder in adults."

Shock
Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Reconstruction
Acceptance

These are the "7 Stages of Grief."
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The 7 Stages of Grief, published by Iris Lin and Nhi Huynh, delves into this question by extending it to interdisciplinary artists. Through a curation of different forms of art, this book explores how artists of all mediums experience each stage of grief. Whether it be through photographs, poems, music, or drawings, each one of these pages tells a unique story about each individual artist.

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About this Episode

Discover the shift in consciousness that Krystal experienced that empowered her to not let her circumstances define her any longer. She is victorious over sexual assault as a child, being told that she was a liar when she was saying that she was abused as a child, and years of a legal battle with her worker compensation to finally get the surgery she needed after having torn her groin at work.Discover how she has overpowered her obstacles and started her own business where she is helping her clients declutter to heal their minds, bodies, souls, and homes.

About Krystal

Krystal is a Feng Shui Master, Interior Designer & Clutter Expert who helps work-from-home entrepreneurs turn their spaces into offices they love to work in (even if they suck at it).Using her proprietary framework The Designed Life Method℠ Mind, Body, Soul, Home, she helps her clients declutter and design a workspace that empowers them to create the life & business that they want.Krystal shows women how to use their workspace as a 3D vision board to help them design who they are becoming & the life they want with it, right into their space. Connect with Krystal

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3 Steps to Transition Out of Toxic Love with Illa Lynn

In this illuminating episode, join Illa Lynn and me as we delve into a transformative journey encompassing three vital steps for transitioning out of toxic love.

Embarking on a path towards genuine love and empowerment requires navigating the complexities of relationships. While love has the potential to be beautiful, it can sometimes manifest as toxicity.

Within this episode, we unveil a comprehensive roadmap consisting of three essential steps that serve as a beacon of hope:

1. Unveiling the Trauma Bond: Our first step involves recognizing and dismantling the intricate web of the trauma bond. By understanding its dynamics, we lay the foundation for breaking free from its grasp.

2. Forging Your Support Network: The significance of a robust support system cannot be overstated. We explore the pivotal role it plays in your journey towards liberation and self-discovery.

3. Executing Your Exit Strategy: The final step entails crafting and executing a well-defined exit plan. This strategic move empowers you to sever ties with toxicity and embrace the path to genuine love.

As you embark on this transformative journey, these steps become your guiding light, leading you away from the confines of toxic relationships and propelling you toward the authentic love you truly deserve. Tune in to uncover the blueprint for your liberation and the realization of enduring, meaningful connections.

 

Co-author of the RISING AFTER ABUSE anthology, Illa Lynn's story is found in chapter #13

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Illa's Introduction

Illa Lynn is a resilient individual who has triumphed over a decade-long struggle with people-pleasing tendencies and the harrowing effects of narcissistic abuse. Today, as a Certified Relationship Coach and Dating Guide, she is dedicated to supporting and empowering corporate women aged 30 and above. Illa's mission is to guide them towards embracing their true authenticity with pride and confidence.

Specializing in fostering genuine and lasting connections, Illa assists her clients in attracting loving partners who are committed to long-term relationships. Her approach is centered around building romantic bonds based on the pillars of trust, honesty, and integrity. Through her expertise, Illa Lynn illuminates the path to healthy and enriching relationships, empowering her clients to embark on this transformative journey.

 

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Illa’s website: https://illalynnlifecoaching.wixsite.com/mysite

You can email her at illa.lynn@inspireblissfuljoy.net

and also text her at +1 949-243-0553

She lives in Orange County, near Los Angeles, in California

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Veronica’s bio

Veronica Weedon is the Founder of Revival Health GmbH, an integrative health and relationship coaching practice that helps individuals heal holistically after toxic relationships. After years of her own healing journey, she now helps clients break the abuse cycle, reform their beliefs, and transform their relationships and life through a program that addresses health on a mental, emotional, and physical level.

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Email: veronica@revivalhealth.chWebsite: www.revivalhealth.chFacebook: @revivalhealthllcFacebook Group: @revivalhealthllcInstagram: @revivalhealthllcFree gift: Training video

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